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By Devin Watkins

Complaints, uncertainties, needs, wounds, but also courage, forgiveness, prayers, and hope.

These themes related to the life of every family across the globe form the basis of the meditations written for the Via Crucis which Pope Francis presides over on Good Friday at the Colosseum in Rome.

Fifteen families linked to Catholic volunteer associations and communities wrote the meditations, since this year marks the Amoris Laetitia Family Year celebrating the fifth anniversary of the Pope鈥檚 Apostolic Exhortation.

Progression of family life

The order of the meditations partially reflects the progression of family life, moving from the financial difficulties of young couples to the trials of parenthood and from the pain of loss to extraordinarily difficult situations like war.

A young couple kicks off the Way of the Cross reflecting on their difficulties, which include seeing their friends鈥� marriages fail, their love as yet untested by trials, and their struggles to make ends meet. 鈥淢arriage,鈥� they say, 鈥渋s not only a romantic adventure; it is also Gethsemane: the anguish we feel before breaking our body for the other."

A missionary family then shares their difficulty in trusting Divine Providence, as they witness the horrors of war and are tempted to turn to violence in response. Yet, they daily struggle to resist the temptation to betray Christ in His brothers and sisters.

Love without and with children

An elderly couple without children offers the reflection for the 3rd Station, pointing out how often they have experienced the condemnation of others who judge them for their sterility. Love, they add, fills their family as they walk hand-in-hand.

A family of many children shares the opposite point-of-view, noting that personal projects and career goals often give way to family duties, even if unbidden. 鈥淒espite our worries and our very full days,鈥� they say, 鈥渨e would never  think of going back.鈥�

Judgement and illness

Another couple says their son with a disability was judged even before he came into the world, since doctors told them he would be 鈥渁 burden to you and society: 鈥榗rucify him鈥�.鈥� But he had done nothing wrong, and they chose life.

A family which has turned their house into a home for many others points out that pain has the power to change us and remind us of the simplicity of human dignity.

A man whose wife was diagnosed with a terrible illness offers a reflection on the 7th Station. Unexpected illness, he says, put him and his wife on the cross but also made them the bedrock of their family.

Failure, abandonment, loss

Two grandparents compare their situation鈥攚ith a live-in daughter and 5 grandchildren due to a failed marriage鈥攖o that of Jesus helped to carry His cross by Simon of Cyrene. 鈥淥ur steps falter and at night, after having laughed, we find ourselves weeping with compassion.鈥�

A couple who adopted two children points out that adoption is always the result of a child being abandoned, and that this situation leaves a wound that will forever bleed. 鈥淏ut this cross, even if it is painful,鈥� they add, 鈥渉ides a secret happiness.鈥�

A widowed mother with two children shares her pain for the 10th Station, and wonders aloud why Jesus 鈥渋f He is the Son of God鈥� did not save her husband. Yet, she notes, 鈥淟ove becomes real, because even in our abyss and discomfort we are not abandoned.鈥�

Two parents whose son is a consecrated religious share their incredulity and difficulty accepting their son鈥檚 vocation, admitting that they had abandoned him to his choice. Though their attitudes have changed, they still ask Jesus to remember them when He comes into His Kingdom.

As Mary watched her Son on the cross, another mother stood by silently as her young daughter鈥攁nd then her own husband鈥攄ied at a tender age. She shares the pain of seeing her family transformed, and recalls the only words that have given her some semblance of strength: 鈥淕od does not call those who are strong, but He strengthens those whom He calls.鈥�

Destruction of war

The 13th Station meditation was penned by a pair of families who from the current political point-of-view should have nothing to do with each other: one hails from Ukraine and the other from Russia.

Yet, together they have written about the pain of death and destruction鈥攈ow life seems to lose meaning and hate gives way to hopelessness and silence鈥攁nd together they carry the Cross of Christ for the Station that marks His own death.

Migrants hoping to see the light of day

The reflection for the 14th and final Station of the Way of the Cross comes from a family who have become migrants due to war.

At home they were important; now they are just numbers and categories. Even being Catholic seems to take second place to being migrants, and so they die each day so that their children have the chance of a life without bombs, blood, and persecution.